Last Friday I met one couple during lunch time at Tesco E-Gate they are my university friends, they came back to Penang to visit the family. The husband from Penang and the wife from Indonesia but been stay at Melbourne for many years. Knew the husband during secondary time but he cannot recall and don't know who I am until we joined one society and became committee members then I mentioned to him only he recall it.
I really respect the couple especially the wife, they have two little cute childrens, one boy (3 years old)and one girl (9 months). Throughout the 3 hours time that I spend with them it is really not an easy task to take care of the kids and I look at my friend he got a lot of white hairs and he keep saying 2 kids he already headache and he jokingly asked his's wife anymore?
Both of them keep saying one thing good to stay at Malaysia was you can afford to have maid but not in Melbourne. In Melbourne you don't have maid and their house quite big so all the housework have to do it by themselves and luckily the wife is full-time housewife.
In Australia they are not allow to cane the kids, so this my friend of mine said hopefully this kind of education can work out because he said the western education cultural is very different from us because all of us sure been cane by our parent before and from his points of view we do respect and listen to our parent but the western cultural once you grow up is all by yourself to be independence and they will not stay with the parent.
I knew a lot of my friends already became parent and it is really not an easy task to teach and take care of the children in term of both financially and physically, but the love and joyfulness the children’s bring to you cannot be replace/compensate. Last time we always blame our parent for this and that but once yourself become the parent you will know how and feel it.
To all the young parent this is another life cycle that we need to go through 加油 and don't forget to love and respect our parent at the same time :)
Monday, March 31, 2008
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Walking Encyclopedia
Last week one of my best friend called me walking encyclopedia due to some questions I got from a friend of mine. This friend of mine asked me some info regarding application into UM medic course and because my best friend's husband is a doctor at UM hospital and he also studied at UM before so she became my 1st reference/victim for help.
When I received call from this friend, I actually very shocked because he long time never contact me and why suddenly he call. After the conversation with him I also felt very funny but anyway I do tried my best to help him out.
My best friend called me walking encyclopedia is correct and true, sometime I myself also felt that. Why? Not to said that I proud of myself or very expert but I seriously find that due to my work environment/experience, I do learn or gain a lot of knowledge such as business world dealing issues, shares/ fund investment, loan, taxes, property and etc compared to some of my friends.
Throughout these exposure it really help and teaches me a lot, although with these some little knowledge I cannot be like a professional or expert but I have some rough ideas and sometime when I come across it, I can share or give some opinions. Even sometime when I come across those issues that I not really sure or don't know, I always like/love to find out.
But being a walking encyclopedia also not good because some peoples will take advantages of you or some think that you are very proud of yourself and show off. I have this experience before, it happen during one of the gathering with a group of friends whom I consider close friends. I seriously cannot remember what their topics are on that night and what I have said. The following day a close friend of that group told me " Nowadays our friends all working and have money already, I knew that yours family background are different from us, so some of things that we want to experience/ enjoy may be you already experience before, so just keep quiet and let our friends say and enjoy it. I was like?????? What did I said?? I seriously cannot remember and it really made me very sad and hurt that these words came out from a friend, who I consider very close friend of mine.
When I received call from this friend, I actually very shocked because he long time never contact me and why suddenly he call. After the conversation with him I also felt very funny but anyway I do tried my best to help him out.
My best friend called me walking encyclopedia is correct and true, sometime I myself also felt that. Why? Not to said that I proud of myself or very expert but I seriously find that due to my work environment/experience, I do learn or gain a lot of knowledge such as business world dealing issues, shares/ fund investment, loan, taxes, property and etc compared to some of my friends.
Throughout these exposure it really help and teaches me a lot, although with these some little knowledge I cannot be like a professional or expert but I have some rough ideas and sometime when I come across it, I can share or give some opinions. Even sometime when I come across those issues that I not really sure or don't know, I always like/love to find out.
But being a walking encyclopedia also not good because some peoples will take advantages of you or some think that you are very proud of yourself and show off. I have this experience before, it happen during one of the gathering with a group of friends whom I consider close friends. I seriously cannot remember what their topics are on that night and what I have said. The following day a close friend of that group told me " Nowadays our friends all working and have money already, I knew that yours family background are different from us, so some of things that we want to experience/ enjoy may be you already experience before, so just keep quiet and let our friends say and enjoy it. I was like?????? What did I said?? I seriously cannot remember and it really made me very sad and hurt that these words came out from a friend, who I consider very close friend of mine.
Bad Mood
This week been very bad week for me, felt very down and sad. I also don't know/ understand why like that. It seems like so many things on my mind, one by one that challenging my capability to handle/settle it both at work or my personal issues.
Yesterday night heard of one news, should I say it is sad news or good news for me, I seriously don't know. Although I keep telling/force myself to forget about it but I know I not yet, so when I heard of the news that he will be transfer to work at Singapore (not from him personally), my heart automatically bit very fast and one very strange feeling surrounding me. Anyway just wishes him all the best and good luck.
In my previous blog I do mentioned about some issues happen on my company hopefully we are making the right decision and everything will back to normal soon. I believe and hope that once the bad things gone, good one will come.
Yesterday night heard of one news, should I say it is sad news or good news for me, I seriously don't know. Although I keep telling/force myself to forget about it but I know I not yet, so when I heard of the news that he will be transfer to work at Singapore (not from him personally), my heart automatically bit very fast and one very strange feeling surrounding me. Anyway just wishes him all the best and good luck.
In my previous blog I do mentioned about some issues happen on my company hopefully we are making the right decision and everything will back to normal soon. I believe and hope that once the bad things gone, good one will come.
Friday, March 21, 2008
Resign Letter
Me myself never and don't have chance/think of to tender resign letter but this month along due to my position/role in the company, I received 5-6 resign letters. Although I knew what are the problems causing this to happen but we already done our best from my point of view. Really don't understand those peoples already been sacked or asked by the company to resign by themselve and company also give them chance never report them to the police but at the end they came and attack company and asked the existing employees to follow them.
I don't know why some peoples are being so stupid, they rather to follow a newly setup company and rather believe/listen to sweet words offer by others. How come they never think of although they offer you very good and attractive package but can they be long term and give you bright future????
Nowaday setup a business is not an easy task especially in our industry. You must have a good track records, sound financial background and strong manpowers to support/service the customers.
Anyway I hope/pray that we can get through this quickly and I do believe that we can. Those peoples that playing the dirty tricks cann't last long and sucess, we will see it one day what are their consequences.
I don't know why some peoples are being so stupid, they rather to follow a newly setup company and rather believe/listen to sweet words offer by others. How come they never think of although they offer you very good and attractive package but can they be long term and give you bright future????
Nowaday setup a business is not an easy task especially in our industry. You must have a good track records, sound financial background and strong manpowers to support/service the customers.
Anyway I hope/pray that we can get through this quickly and I do believe that we can. Those peoples that playing the dirty tricks cann't last long and sucess, we will see it one day what are their consequences.
Saturday, March 15, 2008
Money $$$
I mentioned about a close friend of my borrowed money from me in my previous blog and this morning when I just on my computer she already MSN me. I have not choice since my MSN showed that I online so just chit-chat with her and talk about recent election issues and etc. I really thanks god that I threw this question to her, I asked her “friend can I ask you one question when are you convenience to return me the balance money that you owed me? Towards my surprise she replied "I thought I already returned you all the money? I was like what the hell you are talking about, I was very angry, how can you don't know how much you borrow from me? I replied her no you still owed me some balance and I straight away told her I do have my cheque record then I typed out the date and the amount I bank in for her and asked her go and check herself. She said she will return me my money end of this month and I really hope that she will.
Friday, March 14, 2008
Faith 缘分 Part 2
I have to admit that I very blur toward relationship things. Last year Valentine's Day he does invited me out for dinner, but throughout the whole night he let me felt that it just a normal dinner, same old conversation, he didn’t even said a word of Happy Valentine. On that night I really want to ask him "you treat me as what" but end up I never.
For me he always been very busy with his work and I knew that he very pressure at work but sometime either he called or I called half way through the conversation he have incoming call he will just said have incoming call, call you back later but never and sometime never reply your's sms. I really hate it.
Throughout these few months he does really advised, teached and helped me out in many issues and I really appreciated. All the while I don't know what I want I been so blur about my career/future I basically do nothing and he is the one that wake me up and make me think deeply and seriously what I can do and what I should do and I do learned a lot of knowledge from him. Deep under my heart I do really want to said/ convey my thank you to him.
He is very mature for his ages, high ambition person and knows what he want/ achieve and he really love his's mother. He is also a very determine person once he decided what he want to do it, not matter how difficult or hard he will achieve it. But don't know why he always said he want to quit smoking, he do tried it but eventually start to smoke back again. Money can’t buy back health, really want to tell him that do not take pressures as excuses to smoke and drink.
He really hurt me and make me very sad on my's birthday. I do reserve the day for him, he got called me on that day but talk about other issues not even a word of happy birthday. I 100% sure that he knew that day was my birthday. And 1 week after my birthday was his birthday I knew he was at overseas, I some more stupid enough to send him sms and wished him Happy Birthday as usual never reply not even a word of thank you.
Since I send out the sms last year June until now already half a year past I keep telling myself to let go and forget about it but I know down under my heart I still want to find out the truth or the answer “he treat me as what?” I don't know what he mean of “hope that day will come and you will understand it or one day you will realise it”. Time will heal and I thought I already recover but last week two incident let me realised that I not yet fully recover. Shit!!!! I know my friends will scold me like hell and I know not worth it but I still not yet 100% let go, how stupid I am :(
For me he always been very busy with his work and I knew that he very pressure at work but sometime either he called or I called half way through the conversation he have incoming call he will just said have incoming call, call you back later but never and sometime never reply your's sms. I really hate it.
Throughout these few months he does really advised, teached and helped me out in many issues and I really appreciated. All the while I don't know what I want I been so blur about my career/future I basically do nothing and he is the one that wake me up and make me think deeply and seriously what I can do and what I should do and I do learned a lot of knowledge from him. Deep under my heart I do really want to said/ convey my thank you to him.
He is very mature for his ages, high ambition person and knows what he want/ achieve and he really love his's mother. He is also a very determine person once he decided what he want to do it, not matter how difficult or hard he will achieve it. But don't know why he always said he want to quit smoking, he do tried it but eventually start to smoke back again. Money can’t buy back health, really want to tell him that do not take pressures as excuses to smoke and drink.
He really hurt me and make me very sad on my's birthday. I do reserve the day for him, he got called me on that day but talk about other issues not even a word of happy birthday. I 100% sure that he knew that day was my birthday. And 1 week after my birthday was his birthday I knew he was at overseas, I some more stupid enough to send him sms and wished him Happy Birthday as usual never reply not even a word of thank you.
Since I send out the sms last year June until now already half a year past I keep telling myself to let go and forget about it but I know down under my heart I still want to find out the truth or the answer “he treat me as what?” I don't know what he mean of “hope that day will come and you will understand it or one day you will realise it”. Time will heal and I thought I already recover but last week two incident let me realised that I not yet fully recover. Shit!!!! I know my friends will scold me like hell and I know not worth it but I still not yet 100% let go, how stupid I am :(
Monday, March 10, 2008
Faith 缘分Part 1
Did you believe in faith? I do. I always believe that if it is belonging/fate to you not matter how it will eventually come to you. For relationship I do believe on this same concept.
Nowadays society changed girls and guys are in the same equal position girls also can go after guy or make the initiative to start relationship. Will you make the initiative when you meet someone as a girl? My answer is I cannot because my thinking was no matter how girl cannot make the move, girl should have their's own self-esteem/dignity (矜持), if you make the first move guy will not appreciate this relationship because it so easy for them to have you, what if next time anything happen the guy will said you are the one after me so why did you blame me, I totally cannot accept this, am I kolot?
I met one guy about 1.5 years ago and I seriously don't know he treat me as what and what he want. The first time we met each other was very unexpected it was at my sister's wedding I don't whether this is so call fated by god or ???? We never see each other, never chat before but we knew the exist of each other then on the day I 1st saw/met him face to face the introducer not yet said who is he I already automatically said I know who is he, he is so and so. After I called out his name I was so shocked and so do him and he asked me did we meet each other before I said no, I just don't know and cannot understand why I can said he is so and so. After that I just told him his table no. and that is.
One month passed after our first met I suddenly received sms from him, I don't know where the hell he got my no., so I just replied his sms on the question he asked after replied few sms he suddenly asked me out for dinner I kind of shocked but end up I do agreed on the dinner invitation. The dinner was ok and we chat and talk a lot. We do kept in touch after the dinner, sometime through sms and sometime went out for meal.
Nowadays society changed girls and guys are in the same equal position girls also can go after guy or make the initiative to start relationship. Will you make the initiative when you meet someone as a girl? My answer is I cannot because my thinking was no matter how girl cannot make the move, girl should have their's own self-esteem/dignity (矜持), if you make the first move guy will not appreciate this relationship because it so easy for them to have you, what if next time anything happen the guy will said you are the one after me so why did you blame me, I totally cannot accept this, am I kolot?
I met one guy about 1.5 years ago and I seriously don't know he treat me as what and what he want. The first time we met each other was very unexpected it was at my sister's wedding I don't whether this is so call fated by god or ???? We never see each other, never chat before but we knew the exist of each other then on the day I 1st saw/met him face to face the introducer not yet said who is he I already automatically said I know who is he, he is so and so. After I called out his name I was so shocked and so do him and he asked me did we meet each other before I said no, I just don't know and cannot understand why I can said he is so and so. After that I just told him his table no. and that is.
One month passed after our first met I suddenly received sms from him, I don't know where the hell he got my no., so I just replied his sms on the question he asked after replied few sms he suddenly asked me out for dinner I kind of shocked but end up I do agreed on the dinner invitation. The dinner was ok and we chat and talk a lot. We do kept in touch after the dinner, sometime through sms and sometime went out for meal.
Friendship Part 2
In this blog I will write about one of my friend who all the while I treat her as very good and close friend, knew her since primary school, we became very close after I finished my tertiary study and back to work at Pg. I really very disappointed on her and this incident really teached me a lesson.
Last year this friend of mine according to her faced some financial problems, she put in all her saving into joint venture business with a group of her professional friends set-up a consulantcy firm, her share only small portion and due to the business just stared they faced some cash flow problems and need to pump in more cash and all her money been tied up and her personal loan application from bank been rejected. So she need some urgent cash in order for her to bank in monthly allowance to her mother. At first I am the one who offer to loan her some $$ first. Should I said that I stupid or been too kind or she smart, I really don't know? Throughout one month time I transfer money few times to her without realising the figure when I suddently realised that's too late the figure became too big as for me but may be for her only small amount because she earned S$.
After I realised the figure I do asked for advise from few of my friends and I also make up my mind stop borrow her money. Toward my surprise everytime she also said it was the last time she asked for money but on the very last time she asked made me very angry and felt that she was too much and take me for granted. Everytime she asked for money she also MSN me and asked me to bank into her account and sometime I very busy I said I cannot promised her when I can bank in for her, she at first will said ok at your's convenience but later on will sms or MSN to chase you.
The final last time she asked for money I already made up my mind to said NO so I told her I got not money left on my a/c as I just transfer my money into FD so I only left some pocket money for the month. Guess what, she dare to asked me to borrow all the money I have on my a/c to her then I straight away told her not way as I need to spend, eat and pay my monthly insurance installement. But she was too thick skin enough asked how much I can borrow her evern few hundred will do, I was like what the hell she seems like thinking I am very rich or I superwoman don't need to eat and spend and that time just beginning of the month.
During that period I happen to went there for holidays and stay at her place and from the way she spend the money I really felt that she not like that kind of person in deep financial difficulty as she still can affort to spend, enjoy the life and bought expensive goods. At first she said will return the money to me in 1-2 months time but never until I really cannot take it then asked her for the money and she straight away told me she cannot this and that drag until beginning of this year I send a sms to her told her hope that you keep your's promise return me the money as I need the moeny quite urgent only she returned me the money but still got some balance and she never mention when she will return the balance to me.
Can I still keep this friendship? I really don't know. Last time we used to call each other and have long chat, I used to told her my problems and share with her things that happen on me and on the other hand she also told me things that happen on her. From the incident until now I been avoiding her phone call and avoid meeting with her alone whenever she back to Penang, am I very bad? I very scare that she asking for money again and I don't know how to reject her and lend her again.
Last year this friend of mine according to her faced some financial problems, she put in all her saving into joint venture business with a group of her professional friends set-up a consulantcy firm, her share only small portion and due to the business just stared they faced some cash flow problems and need to pump in more cash and all her money been tied up and her personal loan application from bank been rejected. So she need some urgent cash in order for her to bank in monthly allowance to her mother. At first I am the one who offer to loan her some $$ first. Should I said that I stupid or been too kind or she smart, I really don't know? Throughout one month time I transfer money few times to her without realising the figure when I suddently realised that's too late the figure became too big as for me but may be for her only small amount because she earned S$.
After I realised the figure I do asked for advise from few of my friends and I also make up my mind stop borrow her money. Toward my surprise everytime she also said it was the last time she asked for money but on the very last time she asked made me very angry and felt that she was too much and take me for granted. Everytime she asked for money she also MSN me and asked me to bank into her account and sometime I very busy I said I cannot promised her when I can bank in for her, she at first will said ok at your's convenience but later on will sms or MSN to chase you.
The final last time she asked for money I already made up my mind to said NO so I told her I got not money left on my a/c as I just transfer my money into FD so I only left some pocket money for the month. Guess what, she dare to asked me to borrow all the money I have on my a/c to her then I straight away told her not way as I need to spend, eat and pay my monthly insurance installement. But she was too thick skin enough asked how much I can borrow her evern few hundred will do, I was like what the hell she seems like thinking I am very rich or I superwoman don't need to eat and spend and that time just beginning of the month.
During that period I happen to went there for holidays and stay at her place and from the way she spend the money I really felt that she not like that kind of person in deep financial difficulty as she still can affort to spend, enjoy the life and bought expensive goods. At first she said will return the money to me in 1-2 months time but never until I really cannot take it then asked her for the money and she straight away told me she cannot this and that drag until beginning of this year I send a sms to her told her hope that you keep your's promise return me the money as I need the moeny quite urgent only she returned me the money but still got some balance and she never mention when she will return the balance to me.
Can I still keep this friendship? I really don't know. Last time we used to call each other and have long chat, I used to told her my problems and share with her things that happen on me and on the other hand she also told me things that happen on her. From the incident until now I been avoiding her phone call and avoid meeting with her alone whenever she back to Penang, am I very bad? I very scare that she asking for money again and I don't know how to reject her and lend her again.
Saturday, March 08, 2008
Friendship
All the while I do really treassure the friendship I earn throghout my life journey and I really glad and thanks god that I have friends from kindergarden, primary, secondary and Uni. 3 of my kindergarden friends 2 male and 1 female, female one already married and have one very cute and chubby daughter and I more close to the two gentleman. On and off we do hang around together, I can really relax, laugh, share and talk whatever I want in front of them because I know both of them will not spread it out.
One of them I called him big boss because he is very successful in his insurance career and always busy whenever we want to ask him out have to inform him early and ask him to write down on his diary. He went through a lot and really put in all his efforts in buliding up his career, I do really respect him.
Another one we used to call him "Fei Long" (mean fat) but he is not fat at all :) He is working at one MNC company bright career as well just that he need to work shift so sometime if want to ask both of them out will be very headache for me because may be this one very busy or outstation or may be another working night shift, need to adjust to both of their time.
The other day me and Fei Long were guessing among 3 of us who will marry 1st and both of us also said is either me or him because the big boss so dam busy earning $$ and from our's opinion he will not so soon step into relationship. For both me and Fei Long we still waiting for our's faith, "jia yu" haha.
I really wish and pray hard that not matter what happen in the future our's friendship will last forever. I will write about other friendship I have in later blog.
One of them I called him big boss because he is very successful in his insurance career and always busy whenever we want to ask him out have to inform him early and ask him to write down on his diary. He went through a lot and really put in all his efforts in buliding up his career, I do really respect him.
Another one we used to call him "Fei Long" (mean fat) but he is not fat at all :) He is working at one MNC company bright career as well just that he need to work shift so sometime if want to ask both of them out will be very headache for me because may be this one very busy or outstation or may be another working night shift, need to adjust to both of their time.
The other day me and Fei Long were guessing among 3 of us who will marry 1st and both of us also said is either me or him because the big boss so dam busy earning $$ and from our's opinion he will not so soon step into relationship. For both me and Fei Long we still waiting for our's faith, "jia yu" haha.
I really wish and pray hard that not matter what happen in the future our's friendship will last forever. I will write about other friendship I have in later blog.
Why I Blog
I always like and enjoy to read people blog and sometime I do leave comment especially to my good friend. Knew him since kindergarden till now and just recently start to go through his blog. What actually inspired me to write blog because sometime I face some problems I really have not where to go to, and I find that if I start to write may be it will help and hopefully it will. The second reason is I want to improve my english, all the while my english grammar not very good and hopefully by writting my own blog it will help.
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